A man by the name of Thomas Aquinas once said “There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.” And there really is a lot of truth to that. Friends are there to encourage you. Friends are there to cheer you on. Friends are also there to tell you the truth about yourself when you need to hear it. Although an entire book can be written about the beauty of friendship, if they could be condensed into one sentence, it would be this: Friends are blessings that help us to grow into our best selves.
That’s why it’s always a good idea to do all that we can to protect and nurture our friends. If you want to know some things that you can do this year to keep you friendships thriving, here are five things to commit to doing in the upcoming months.
1. Ask them exactly what it is they need from you
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Whether romantic or platonic, there are a lot of relationships that end up going sour because one or both people feel as if their needs are not being met. There’s a pretty simple way to prevent your friendship from being one of these statistics. Ask your friends what they need from you. Being that each person is an individual, you might hear “quality time” from one and “to not be judgmental with information I share with you” from another. Whatever the case may be, by telling you flat-out, you don’t have to guess and that can end up making everyone involved feel more secure in the relationship.
2. Be proactive in reaching out
Be honest. Would some of your friendships be virtually non-existent if it wasn’t for the fact that they do pretty much all of the calling, texting and social media connecting? No one wants to feel as if they are doing all of the work in a friendship. If you know that some of your friends could blame you for not being as proactive as you could be, put forth more effort into reach out. Not calling back, but calling first.
3. Plan a girls' trip
Some of your best friendship memories probably consist of trying new things together and that alone should be a good enough incentive to plan a girls’ trip this year. It could be a cruise, a resort or just a bed and breakfast in the next town away from your city. Traveling is one of the best ways to get off the grid, hang out, and reconnect. For a few suggestions on fun girlfriend trips, click here.
4. Be more supportive
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Everyone needs people in their life who are going to be a shoulder to cry on in the hard times and a cheerleader to celebrate during the good ones. If someone considers you to be a friend, it’s imperative that they can count on you for both. Definitely make it a point and purpose to be as supportive as you possibly can. It will take your friendships a really (really) long way.
5. Gossip. A lot less.
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Everyone gossips. That’s just the way it is. But if you are the one who is always bringing up negative or salacious information, it’s only going to cause a strain on your friendships overtime (and make folks pretty suspicious of your character). Besides, each day is precious and you don't get do overs. Therefore, try and keep how much you talk about other people’s business to a minimum. There’s a lot more that you can discuss anyway and positivity works wonders for any relationship. Promise.