All marriages are different and what works for one relationship is not necessarily destined to work for another. Every couple has their own set of difficulties, stressors and sore spots and hopefully they possess strong problem-solving techniques which will lead to a fulfilling and healthy marriage that lasts 'till death do us part. Is it a coincidence that some of these techniques seem to pop up in the majority of healthy marriages? Probably not! Here are 5 things happily married women tend to have in common and why they help sustain the relationship long-term.
If you think your relationship won't cause you frustration and anger at times, you might be a tad delusional. Our partners are capable of pushing buttons we didn't even know we had. But the ability to let go of certain traits that annoy or aggravate us may end up saving us a lot of time in the long run. Sure, certain points of conflict will need to be addressed as they arise but not every fight is a fight worth having. Sometimes it is best to take a deep breath, and go with the flow. Often times your partner will see the error of his/her ways and soften or change to meet your standards.
2. A Sense of Humor
Being able to laugh about anything is a trait to be treasured. Whether you giggle together about your kid's ridiculous behavior, laugh off silly quarrels or are able to find humor in tragedy, the power of levity will make your life much easier.
3. Close Friends
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Even in the healthiest of relationships, a girl needs to be able to talk over life's little problems with someone outside her marriage. Having close friends allows us to get feedback on relationship issues, vent about problems at home or at work, and most importantly keeps us social, which in turn helps our communication skills with our partners.
4. Independent Hobbies
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Have you ever wanted to run a 5K with your partner, only to be shut down immediately? Did you then decide to run it on your own or did you lose the motivation and forget the dream all together? You and your partner are not always going to want to do the same things. That's Ok! You should have your own set of hobbies and interests that make YOU happy. Who knows, maybe when your partner sees the look of success on your face after you finish the race, they will be more apt to give it a try next year? But if not, don't let it ruin your day.
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Arguably the most important thing a relationship needs to succeed. Trust isn't a skill. It is something that develops over time when you make healthy decisions together concerning both partners needs. Without trust, we operate under the control of fear, and that path is a rocky road that leads to discontent.This post was originally published on Hearts & Mermaids