6 Things You Should NEVER Have a Problem Saying 'No' To

6 Things You Should NEVER Have a Problem Saying 'No' To
Fast Company

Saying 'no' is not always a bad thing. The reality is that saying "no" is about setting up boundaries for yourself so that you can guard your heart, protect your time and energy and make sure that your life is as healthy and productive as possible.

That’s not to say that saying "no" is always easy. Especially if you’re known for not doing it very often. So, if you need some help in figuring out what you should say “no” to---things that are absolutely non-negotiable---here are six that should be on the very top of every woman’s list.


1. Negativity

Source: Fine Points Leadership

Aside from the fact that negativity is such a downer on your spirit, did you know that it can also do a real number on your health? There are numerous studies which indicate that negative thoughts and people can increase stress and anxiety levels, lead to sleepless nights, and even cause harm to your respiratory system and heart. Yes, there will be times when negative situations happen that are beyond your control. However, try and have a positive outlook about them and make sure to keep negative influences down to a minimum.


2. A dead end job


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Finding a way to pay your bills is important. But because you’re going to spend a significant amount of your waking hours working, your job needs to be something you enjoy, and also something that challenges you to grow. If you hate going into an office every day or there’s no possibility of you moving up in ranks, it’s time to look for something else. Quick, fast, and in a hurry.


3. An abusive relationship

Source: Salon

You should never tolerate physical abuse. Hopefully that’s a given. But there are other ways someone can hurt you than with their fist. If you’re being emotionally, mentally or even sexually taken advantage of, it’s time to remove yourself from the situation. Until the person on the victimizing end is ready to get some help, the relationship has nowhere to go but the trash.


4. Over-Sharing Online

Source: Dr. Quintal

When you get a chance, take a moment to read “10 Reasons to Keep Your Relationship Status Hidden”. For now we’ll say this: Having social media accounts can be beneficial when it comes to reconnecting with old friends, staying in touch with family, and doing some professional networking. But what you don’t need to use it for, is to discuss any work or home problems you may be having. You don’t need all of the extra input from your “friends”, and you never know might be paying attention...


5. Being a doormat in your friendships

Source: Wise Bread

If there’s any relationship where things should reflect a pretty even give and take ratio, it would be as it relates to friendship. That said, if you’re the one doing all of the work, if your friends aren’t there to encourage and support you, if they cause you to feel worse about yourself rather than better---if, in short, you can’t come up with five good reasons to keep them around, it’s time to do some reevaluating. Friends are supposed to lift you up, not use you as something to walk all over.


6. Not loving yourself

Source: Prevention

The old saying is right. If you don’t love yourself, how is somebody else supposed to love you. Try not to be self-deprecating, try to celebrate the goals that you set, and constantly remind yourself of your own value and self-worth. Say 'no' to self-loathing, and 'yes' to caring about your own needs.

This post was originally published on From My Lips