Living loudly and boldly is all about being confident in yourself. It's hard to stand out in the world when I am constantly conforming to other people's ideas of who I am supposed to be. Being true to yourself and content in who you are in the loudest, boldest, and most beautiful thing you can do. It's time to throw away society's expectations and focus on being the best YOU that you can be. Here are six beautiful ways that you can live loudly and boldly in a world that is telling us to all be the same.
Stand For Something
You don’t need to be the most outspoken person on social media or the person petitioning by city hall every weekend to stand up for issues that are important to you. Know your stance on things happening in the world and commit time to some of them. Maybe you’ll want to volunteer at a homeless shelter on the weekends, or apply to volunteer at a non profit helping senior citizens enroll in prescription assistance benefits, or maybe you want to fight mental illness stigma. Find the right outlet for you to stand up for what you believe in and research the reasons why. Learn the facts and dedicate your thoughts to it. Whether it is a feminism issue, a political issue, or keeping your neighborhood (or city block) clean, once you start to commit time to one thing you will show others that it is okay to care! When you stand up for a cause, you’ll notice that little by little you really are changing the world.
One way I try to live loudly and boldly in my life is through my relationships. In life we are given a handful of people to care about deeply, and you owe it to yourself to create meaningful and real relationships with these people. Call your close friends as much as you can and commit time to spend with them regularly. Love your friends unconditionally despite your differences and beliefs, and show them you care as often as you can. Always check in and ask how your friends are really doing; many times life gets too busy and these kinds of questions fall through the cracks of the conversations. Be there for your friends and family before they ask you to be there. Loving your friends and your family members deeply is a sure way to live loudly and boldly. Nothing is more beautiful than loving the people around you.
Practicing forgiveness is not easy. The key to this is to be slower to anger. I find that when I am completely confident in who I am as a person, I am less likely to be hurt by things people say that are harmful. If someone says something about you or your life that felt aggressive or harmful, think of 4 reasons right then in your head as to why they are wrong. Maybe they don’t know you as well as they think they do, maybe they only know half the story, maybe they have so much going on in their life that they spoke without thinking first, or maybe they felt just as bad after saying that and don’t have the courage to say they are sorry. Whatever the reason is that you come up with in your head, know that you have the superpower of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean something bad didn't happen. You can forgive even the most selfish person if you have confidence in yourself. Forgiving people is part of loving relationships and living loudly and boldly. I couldn’t name many people in my life that haven’t hurt me in some way, yet I also couldn’t name too many people that I haven’t hurt as well. This is because we are all flawed humans who most of the time think of ourselves before others. Be confident in who you are, and always forgive.
Find Out What You Truly Enjoy
I happen to think this way of living loudly and boldly is the most fun. Find out you like to do, and do it! This doesn’t mean you have to quit your job and become an artist, but fill your spare time with hobbies that interest you. Join a recreational soccer team, or join a pottery class. Fill your time with things you really enjoy. Go on day hikes, play strategy games with your friends, even bake cupcakes just because you love baking. If you love to write, then spend time writing. If you want to learn to play guitar, ask a friend for lessons. Living loudly and boldly is all about enjoying life and living life to the fullest, and finding what makes you happy is a crucial step to this.
Live Your Own Life
This is my biggest struggle. Sometimes we devote too much of our time to spending with other people, we forget to live our own lives. I have a large list of things I truly enjoy doing, but sometimes other relationships get in the way. Find that balance of loving friends and family deeply, but also loving yourself. Spend time alone doing the things you truly enjoy, and know when to say "no" to your friends. Be happy with the life choices you have made that have got you where you are. Living your own life is all about being happy to be who you are and spending time being that person.
Don’t Be Afraid To Try New Things
If something in your life isn't working, don't be afraid to restart. Know that things will work out and that there isn't just one path to a happy life. If you're unhappy at your job, don't be afraid to switch paths completely and try something new. If something in your relationship is broken, try new ways to fix it. Don't fall into the same thought patterns and unhealthy communication habits. Being open to this change is a way to live loudly and boldly.
Are you ready to live loudly and boldly?
This post was originally published on Laila Ali Lifestyle