Longtime Couples Reveal Their Tips To Making It Work

Longtime Couples Reveal Their Tips To Making It Work
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Many of us are guilty of turning to our BFF for relationship and/or dating advice, and while best friends are great and all, a lot of the times they are just as clueless and inexperienced as we are.

Things in the dating world may have changed in the last decade or so (ahem, apps!) but believe it or not when it comes to relationship advice, sometimes it's best to listen to our older, more wiser peers.

We've gathered some of our favorite tips from longtime couples who have been married for decades who shared advice from their own successful unions, proving that sometimes old people do know a thing or two.

Don't be afraid to ask if you need help.

"Whenever we're working on something, we make it a point to ask the other person, 'Can I help?' It's so simple, but often people assume that their spouse will automatically know what they need. You have to say it." -- Mike and Colleen Dollar, married 12 years

It's okay to do things separately every once in a while.

"It's important to have independent hobbies and the freedom to do them without pressure or guilt from your spouse." -- Tess and John Hohman, married 20 years

Say I love you like there's no tomorrow.

"I never let my husband leave the house without a kiss and an 'I love you.' Life has no guarantees and he might not come home again." -- Dave and Lisa Gunn, married 29 years

Doing favors shouldn't be a competition and/or expectation.

"It's a given that you should always look for ways to serve one another, but the trick is to do it without any expectations. We do it because we love each other, not because we expect something in return." -- Jason and Myndie Krause, married 10 years

Have rules for fighting and never name call.

"Everyone disagrees sometimes but no matter how heated things get, we never call each other names. It keeps a basic level of respect present." -- Leah and Carson Kinney, married 13 years

Know when to back off and give them their space.

"A key to our marriage has been learning when to back off and give the other one some space. During an argument, you eventually reach a point where the best thing is just to walk away and cool off. If you keep pushing, it leads to an explosion." -- Colby and Kristen Morgan, married 19 years

Don't forget the little things.

"Don't stop dong the little things you did together when you first started dating. We loved dancing and now we still make time to dance together, even if it's just in the kitchen while we're making dinner." -- Lynda and Jeremy Benson, married 20 years

Marry your best friend.

"We are each other's best friend. This means we love to do things together and talk to each other. We tell things to each other we'd never tell anyone else. We trust each other with everything and have a sense of humor. We have common likes and are open to trying new things. It really comes down to knowing that no matter what, he has my back and I have his." -- Alicia and Juan Orozco, married 10 years

Take a vested interest in what they love.

"Whatever is really important to the other should be your priority too. Value their passions, goals, interests, and needs, and decide you will just absolutely support them. This works best if they do the same for you too." -- Emily and Michael Pfeiffer, married 11 years

Always, always, always make time for date nights.

"Since our children were infants, our family has watched the kids so we could have date night every Friday night. Everyone, even our friends, know date night is Friday and that date night cannot be disturbed. This gives us a chance to reset whatever madness happened during the week (and there is always plenty!). This has become the glue that keeps us together." -- Christie and Evan O'Sullivan, married 11 years