It's so ironic that even in the prime age of technology, we've subconsciously made all of these social rules about how we communicate with each other.
"Don't text first. Don't double text. Don't text back too fast. Don't make them wait too long. Don't use that emoji."
Is there a reason to all of this, or is it all rooted in pride? Or perhaps it's all rooted in having the power in the relationship? I often think about how older generations would feel about this. They went out of their way to talk to others through letters, telegrams and phone calls. Yet here we are in the 21st century, not utilizing the communication we have.
Instead of hopelessly checking your phone every .2 seconds, make a move. If you really want to text somebody, do it! Text them first. Here's why.
1. It's honestly not a big deal.
You're not going out of your way to text somebody. It takes 10 seconds to do it. Therefore, relatively speaking, that text you sent out doesn't have to mean anything considering the effort and time put into it.
2. You'll get closure.
You stare at your phone waiting for that one text, but it's just not coming. So you're left wasting your time overanalyzing why it's not coming. But if you just send that text, you'll get all the answers to your questions so you can move on with your life.
3. What's the worst that could happen?
The worst case scenario is them not texting you back or them stating they aren't interested, which probably won't even happen in the first place. The odds are in your favor.
4. If you have something to say, you should always say it.
It's not very healthy to hold feelings in. The reason you have emotions is so you can express them. If you're holding feelings in simply because you're afraid of sending a text, you are harming not only yourself, but the text recipient.
5. It shows you know what you want.
I mean, who has time to stare at an empty text conversation for 4 hours? It shows you're confident, down-to-earth, and humble. While the others are too prideful to send a 'hey' text, you're going for the gold.